Our Western world seems to get quite caught up in the “right” way to heal – wanting to ensure we are always taking the “proper” steps.
Always linear but often lacking TRUE integration of body-mind-soul.
The funny thing is that healing is instant (and not linear), when it finally happens.
While hanging with a client yesterday doing an intuitive Total Soul Alignment Business and Life Session, I asked her what it would be like if she decided to leave this session and never struggle again.
She literally groaned at the question.
I asked, “What would happen if you just decided to let your JOY be the reason you do something from now on? If it brings you joy, you do it. If it doesn’t bring you joy, you don’t do it.”
Then I told her, “See, most people believe they are on a road of healing and that happiness will happen sometime in the distant future after they’ve done enough work or hit some other elusive milestone they put in place for themselves.
The problem with this is that we tend to then push our happiness off FOREVER. If you ask me…that’s just too long.”
She then said to me with bright eyes, “OH. MY GOSH. I GET IT NOW. I MAKE THE CONSCIOUS DECISION TO BE HAPPY NOW. AS IN, RIGHT NOW. AND I CAN’T EXPECT MY MOTHER, OR HUSBAND, OR KIDS TO ACT A CERTAIN WAY IN ORDER FOR ME TO BE HAPPY.”
B I N G O.
See… healing is instant, and it’s much easier when we come from a place of joy.
Often times, it takes the body time to feel safe enough, the mind time to accept that healing can happen instantly and get out of the way for the spirit to shine through.
However… all of the above suggest that healing requires a lot of TIME.
Sure, it may take some time – and that’s beautiful.
Each moment that passes is one that we get to LIVE in… so they are not to be taken for granted.
It’s also NOT to say healing won’t happen instantly – it absolutely will.
The strategy is to decide that it can and knowing that’s the only way it CAN happen.
Sometimes we have deep fears to overcome, sometimes they sound like:
WHO WILL I BE AFTER I HEAL?
HOW WILL I ACT?
WILL THE PEOPLE IN MY LIFE HAVE TO CHANGE?
WHO WILL I BE IF I’M NOT COMPLAINING ABOUT XYZ? WHAT WILL I TALK ABOUT?
WHO WILL I BE IF I LEAVE THE JOB, THE MARRIAGE, THE OLD ME?
Part of us always KNOWS what needs to happen in order to let the instantaneous healing happen, but we won’t take action because we are too scared of the unknown.
The unknown that healing offers, what’s on the other side of the pain and confusion and cycles of hurt… is actually SO much better, more amazing and juicier than the comfort we believe being in pain is.
The unknown really is everyday anyway, so what would it be like to just govern life by imagining that you are jumping into the unknown constantly?
Day in and day out?
Jump out of bed and prepare to run as fast as possible until you get to the cliff and then run straight off — having FULL FAITH that you WILL in fact FLY… and needing a net won’t even be a second thought.