While sitting at my favorite coffee shop getting a bunch of work done today, a gal from high school came over to my table and said hi.
She’s a year older than me, was one of the best athletes at our school and incredibly gorgeous. She was always sweet and we got along well in sports and when we saw each other. I always looked up to her and admired her poise and power.
We talked briefly today and caught up. Still gorgeous, she has 3 kids now and is opening a company with her husband.
Awhile back (years), I went to write something on her Facebook profile and she had “unfriended” me.
Since then, I had made up all sorts of stories in my head about why and had decided somewhere along the way that for SURE she didn’t like me.
“Maybe my posts were too gushy, or dumb, or intense. Maybe someone I used to know said bad things about me and she agreed.”
I maybe’d myself into pure sadness until I dropped it completely and had to write it off. It didn’t matter anyway, right?
She’s not the only person this has happened with, there have definitely been others.
Today reminded me not to take ANYTHING PERSONALLY & to just keep ASSUMING THE BEST.
See, I was sitting at that table deep in work and didn’t see her, so she didn’t have to stop by and say hi.
She didn’t have to chat with me and tell me about her life.
She didn’t have to introduce me to her kids.
But she did.
And that’s not someone who dislikes someone else.
So, for whatever reason that happened in virtual land so many years ago, it doesn’t matter, at all.
Our brains like to fill in the rest of the story, even when we have NONE of the answers.
AND… it typically likes to do so in a way that is mean to us along the way.
Remember… DON’T TAKE OTHER PEOPLE’S ACTIONS PERSONALLY… AND KEEP ASSUMING THE BEST.
We never know what someone else is going through… so send love, let it go and hope the best for them.