I have discovered there are two ways to live with fear: it controls you or you control it.
Many people say that you either live primarily in love or primarily in fear, and I believe that to be completely true. That doesn’t mean that fear just evaporates completely though when you’re living in love.
When you’re living in a fear state, love is not gone; your ability to feel it in that moment is just greatly diminished.
The easiest way to get OUT of fear, is to learn how to dance with it.
Learn how to look her in the eyes and say “Okay babe, you and I? We’re going to do this, together. You don’t want to go away, that’s cool. I’m going to take my shaky body, my paralyzed mind and my outrageous lack of confidence straight out of here and DO what you keep telling me I can’t. BUT? Don’t worry, I’m not going to leave you behind, you can come and do it WITH ME.”
What are we doing here?
One. We are giving you an out. You no longer have to live in the gap between fear and action. You no longer have to try and figure out how to “not be afraid anymore.” You get to just GO out there and do it anyway.
Two. Your fear will stop fighting you. There is a very real part of your brain that believes it’s keeping you safe by keeping you in fear. When you don’t have to go out there and do it WITHOUT fear, but instead, hand in hand WITH fear, a part of your brain will actually relax and let you begin what you want to do.
Three. It runs your brain out of excuses. It’s easy to live in the place where you have to “figure it all out” and “get perfectly and completely out of being afraid” and “GET READY” before you do anything. BUT. This is just staying stuck and letting fear run the show.
So. Once more.
Look fear in the eye and dance.
Dance, baby, dance.
Put on some music (literally – get your body moving, it will get you out of paralysis) and DANCE.
I suggest this song to get started…