*Photo by Images by Blaire Catherine*
The walk-away muscle has always been strong in this one. (*Points to self*)
I’ve never had a challenge getting up and leaving a situation when it was no longer in alignment with my inner compass.
When it’s time to go, I get up and go.
Opportunities that once seemed like the best thing ever.
One of my deeper lessons was to learn the balance between walking and staying.
Between folding and fighting.
And HOW to fight when it gets hard, when it goes beyond my current capacity of understanding, when digging deep FAR beyond reserves or previous wisdom was needed.
The fight, when it’s not flowing, is a whole other muscle group necessary and critical to build. Especially for entrepreneurs & people in relationships.
My last significant relationship taught me the depths of this.
The strange thing in our culture is that most of the time we don’t do either one.
We don’t REALLY stand and fight for what we believe in and want.
And we don’t REALLY walk away, either.
So, we end up living in the in-between.
Now, when I talk about fighting, I’m not talking about screaming and yelling and throwing words that stab. I’m talking about planting our feet and staying. I’m talking about fiercely deciding, I’ll stand in this storm and I’ll ride it out. I’ll be here, I have your back and we’ll figure this out (your own back and their’s — *whether it’s a business partner, lover, kid, friend, whoever*).
When we get quiet and spend time sitting with the pain that’s festering,
and we take off the layers that have caused us to go numb,
and we wait to run away until we can confidently walk instead,
and we allow the emotions to bubble up and out,
and we breathe…
We find that we gain the clarity of a few critical things:
– Pain is not the enemy and it’s not nearly as scary as living numb for the rest of our lives
– Walking is incredibly POWERFUL when it’s RIGHT, but it’s incredibly PAINFUL when it’s not and lessons can be lost
– Leaving or staying is a conversation of what’s right for the next level of growth, not a conversation of pain or temporary failure
Getting still doesn’t need to take years of talking it out or waiting for ONE day.
It can happen right now, with a DEEP breath and a FULL choice to sit still, breathe into the pain and ask it what it wants to share.
Let it bubble up and out the top of your head… and let what once held you hostage, cleanse you.
Overstaying in any case causes stagnant energy, takes us out of the flow and clogs up the space where other things could otherwise come in and deliver everything we want to us.
Walking doesn’t necessarily mean we have to leave a relationship or company, either.
Sometimes it means we’ve overstayed in a mindset and WAY of doing things… and it’s time to STEP OUT, and STEP UP.
My question to you is WHERE ARE YOU STAYING TOO LONG?
Do you need to strengthen your WALK AWAY muscle?
Why are you stalling?
What’s on the other side?
What will you do TODAY to make a new move that cracks open your flow and allows a little more of YOUR authentic self out and a little more of your FLOW to take over?
I love you.